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At times there are evenings, which enables one to think towards a particular direction. And as the saying goes, an empty head is the devil's place and there i found myself fitting to it's best.
Yesterday evening i & my cousin were talking amongst ourselves & were discussing various incidents of each other's. Somehow we moved to the topic of almighty & the conclusion drawn out in the nutshell was that, though, we haven't seen him, still it is something we even can't comment upon. Itis not because of any scardness or so, itz simply because that though it didnot happen to us, but we do have several incidents of others to follow in a line.
The same crept moving in my mind & there were certain odd questions popping out. Just like the presence of almighty, following the queue was the behavior of an individual.
I was wondering as to what is that, which actually defines the behavior of an individual. External or the internal factors or both. To describe in brief is it the environment he/she is currently living in or is it the background of the family he/she comes from? Are the experiences he faced in life responsible for the same or the inner self we talk about?
there is one more point, I would like to discuss upon. just consider a person in a misery. What is it that he is looking for. "A Solution". Not just to his miseries, but also, for the reason as to why such happened to him. now the third party who is sought after for the solution finishes it up in a single liner" Dekh bhai agar to tu kissi internal factor ki wajah se pareshaan hai tab to sochte hain lekin agar external factors ne tereko itna pareshaan kar dia hai ki woh teri perimeter ki diwaar to todkar tereko hilla sakta hai tab to bhai mushkil hai. Fir to tereko sochna padega. Tab to kuch nahin ho sakta".
Now, i would like to ask as to how would you define to yourself as to what is an external factor & what is an internal factor. And following the same who decides as to what is the duo. Is it you or again is it the third party factor deciding for you?
Taking a small example of a job being considered as an external factor. You are single with no responsibilities it's just like a teenage crush which can either be cherished for a period of time or can be crushed at any moment without any reason or explanation.. It may be easy in this regard, but let's consider a different example. A person who's entire family is banking upon his month2month salary & suddenly for no reasons the job is gone. Now what would you say to it external or internal.
As per any third person it's external as the second can be grabbed upon. But, what about the concerned person & his family. Let's talk in terms of him. What is it external or internal. he is hurt not because he lost a job or for his own sake, but, because he would not be able to sustain the needs and demands of the family for a period of month and various other necessities banking upon the last day of the month which they used to look forward towards to.
In recent times,we have several writers, writing upon personal motivation, growth, learning etc. but would like to simply ask them as to what solution would they provide to such an individual. Which motivational theory would do to them at the hour of the need because everybody on the earthknows what is right and what is wrong, but, even then, works as per the situation in demand.
I would like to ask that at the time when things were in proper place the person is witty, vivacious, outspoken, but with the sudden change what should be the behavior one would like to see? How much is it relevant to expect the same from him when he himself is not in good mental health & also the story goes into the fashion that because he has been hurt of external factors, so nobody can help him too. But would expect or rather desire to see him as to what he was previously.
Now what is your say to it....He is guilty because he is not able to compromise as per the new situation or the fault lies in his brains that he is not able to cope up as quickly as the third person???
Well. . As a first impression. . Its another "bit too long" saga by someone having a tough time. . :-)
ReplyDeleteadvise: you ask so many questions in one blog. That its not possible to answer them all in one. .
Now from the first para. . About the presence of ALMIGHTY GOD. . Well obviously there exists things which we have never seen or touched. . And so do our beliefs faith and emotions. . And god for me is nothing but a trust feeling of "something good" which will come for my rescue in the hour of need. . For a simple fact that i am doing good things for others. .
Now the second question which arose to your messy mind is "behaviour of individual"
What defines the behaviour of a man. . Internal or external factor. .
Well. . A simple answer would be. . Your clap won't generate any sound. . Unless supported by the other hand. . So the both. . Internal and external . . Play there role. .
Now. . Next query is. . What are "internal" and "external" factor. .
The answer to that lay in the perspective of the viewer. . For me. . Internal factors mean my beliefs. my principles. My desires. My self respect. . Or can say all my emotions. .
Rest every thing is external to me. . May it be family . . Friends. . Or strangers. .
Obviously then we can not place our family friends and strangers all in one category. . So for that. . We have the circles defining the level of externality. . No need to say. . Family comes first. . Then the friends and rest follows. .
And thats my point of view. . Reader have a right to dip agree with me. . :-)
now. . The next para is really funny. . I would like to know who is that "third party" with that twitty one liner in hindi. . :-) lol
Now coming to your example. . Being thrown out of job is bad. . Even for a single teenage or for a family person. . But obviously the pressure is more on the second. .
Here. . I would doubt on the writer's thinking about internal and external factors. . For me. . External factors here would be. . My family status. . No. Of persons dependent on me. . My savings etc. .
And internal factors will be. . My heart tellin me that "all is well ". . . My mind telling me "we will work out something". . My confidence or lack of it. . My care for my family. .
These will be the things running in my mind. . Internally. .
What other people had to say or think is all external. .
And now. . Don't blame the authors. . They are writing because others are reading them. . And even though we know what is right or wrong. . Still We do need someone to recall the same to us. .
To give up. . Or to fight. . Is all about one decision of that person. .
Change in behaviour is obviously expected. .Thats human nature. .
But. . What should not change. . Even in the hour of pain. . Is man's character. . So change in behaviour would be at momentary as the bad phase he is going through. .
And no body should question this change or object it. .
Obviously. . When bad phase finishes. . The person will be back to normal. .
Now. . To the last para. . As per my opinion. . Not been able to handle the new situation is never his fault. . Its more of a weakness of mind. . If he give up and stop fighting. . Being or not being able to handle is the end result. . Till then . . Never stop fighting. . Go on. . :-)
rishabh Thanks dude i never thought tu itna likhega
ReplyDeleteGood and thanks again & i will implement next time